Your Respect Hero:
Detective Tim Alford

Tim ATim Alford has been a member of the Evansville Police Department for 15 years. He has served as a motor patrol officer, school liaison officer with the North High School district, and is currently serving as a Juvenile Detective. He is also a member of the Crises Negotiations Team and active member of the Suicide Prevention Coalition. Tim also serves on a child abuse task force sponsored by St. Mary’s Hospital. He earned a bachelor’s degree in psychology from the University of Southern Indiana.

Special thanks to Jeff Tron, ICATS, for bringing us today’s guest blogger.


Respect

Respect is a powerful word. It is something we all hope is shown to us by others. Most students show respect daily to their teachers and classmates by following the rules and not disrupting class. If they don’t, consequences are given that might include a suspension from class or serving detention. What about showing digital respect? How many can say they also follow the rules and show respect while online? Many students may feel they do in fact show respect online. But consider these actions: 1) Taking a picture of someone, whether friend or not, with or without their knowledge and then posting that picture on a social site such as Instagram or Facebook, or sharing as a text message; 2) Letting off some steam and frustration posting “I hate him.” or “I want to kill him.” 3) Sending unwanted “teasing” messages to someone using inappropriate language; 4) Making fun of someone for their looks, beliefs, or abilities.

These four actions are examples of situations that have led to much more than just a class or school suspension. They’ve led to involvement by the Evansville Police Department and criminal charges. Situations that seem harmless to students soon lead to serious consequences when the police department gets involved. When school officials receive reports of harassment or bullying that have occurred online, they can contact the police, seize student netbooks, phones, or other devices, and an investigation by the police department’s computer forensics unit takes place. This unit has the ability to access data that students may think they have successfully deleted. Students are responsible for content on their devices even if they have not authored the content.

Students need to protect themselves from being a part of online bullying and disrespect. What can they do to protect themselves if they receive inappropriate digital communication? One option is to ignore the behavior and not respond or add comments to existing disrespect. While that is a smart move, students must also act heroically and report the behavior to parents or school officials. The Evansville Police Department takes the issue of harmful communication very seriously and works hard to protect students from online bullying.

You can be a digital hero and protect yourself and others from serious, legal consequences by not participating in negative and harmful online communication and by reporting it when observed. I challenge you to use technology for good and show respect to all people. If I can be of service to you or you have any questions, please contact me at talford(at)evansvillepolice.com. Thank you for reading my post.

Thoughts…

What would you do if you found yourself involved in an online bullying episode? What does it mean to be an upstander rather than a bystander? Share your experiences, good and bad, so that we can all learn together.

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Bill is an eLearning Coach helping to facilitate meaningful integration of technology to enrich instruction, engage students & develop 21st century skills. He is dedicated to enthusiastic, dynamic and technologically rich teaching as a means of creating and nurturing a lifelong love of learning in children. He has over 15 years of classroom experience and was the 2006 Outstanding High School Educator for Vanderburgh County. Currently he is a doctoral candidate for a Doctor of Philosophy in General Psychology degree with an emphasis on integrating technology, learning, and psychology. Bill maintains an active presence as presenter on the eLearning Conference circuit. He has a supportive wife Jeneen and wonderful son Zander.

227 COMMENTS

  1. Some people may think that they are only teasing or trolling somebody online, but others might take this a serious bullying. There are many people who want to be mean for fun. If you ever get bullied online or know someone who is getting bullied, you need to ignore the person bullying you and tell an adult. If you stand by while someone is bullying then you are part of the problem. It’s much easier to bully online because people can get private information and photos and post them online. People can also pretend they’re your best friend and say mean things to you. Respect is very important online.

  2. something I would like to learn is more about cyber bully’s. I hear about people hurting themselves. I would like to learn more about the issue. I love doing community service so I think it would be a good experience. I mainly want to learn about it because I saw a movie about a girl getting bullied online and it seemed like an awful experience. If I knew more about it I might be able to help.

  3. A Bystander doesn’t do anything when someone is being bullied (they just watch ). An Upstander is someone who stands up to a bully and tells them to stop, tells a teacher, or an adult. I have not been digitally bullied before but when I am in the future then I will tell my parents or teachers right away.

  4. I think if someone ever sees someone getting bullied they should be an upstander. People might be embarrassed to do this, but in the end you will feel good about. Nobody deserves to be bullied. I have not been in any situations that involve bullying. But I do know that if I ever did I would do something about it. Being bullied is one of the worst feelings, and nobody should have to experience it.

  5. If I found myself getting bullied online by someone I knew I would talk to them in person and see if they would say it to my face. If I didn’t know the person and they were bullying me I would block the person so they couldn’t torment me anymore. I think the difference between bystanders and upstanders is, bystanders just watch and don’t do anything about it which bullying too. An upstander actually does something about it and helps the person getting bullied which is the right thing to do.

  6. I would help the person by talking to them privately instead of posting a comment for everyone to see because that will probably cause the more drama from many other people.

  7. If i found myself being bullied online, I would most likely ignore it. If it was severe enough, I may contact a teacher or other school official. Being an upstander is doing something about the bullying, while a bystander would just stand by and let it happen. I haven’t had any direct experiences with cyber bullying thankfully.

  8. If I found myself involved in an online bullying episode I would become an upstander. It doesn’t matter what the person had done, they don’t deserved to be bullied. The Person being bullied might have done something wrong but if so the bully should tell a trusted adult. To be an upstander means to stick up for the person being bullied.

  9. If I would have seen bulling going on online, I would let the teacher and principal know what’s going on. Or if the child that isn’t telling, I would be sure to tell there parents.

  10. If I found myself in the midst of an online bully I would try and help the kid that is being bullied. I think the difference between an upstander and a bystander is an upstander would stand up and try and do his/her best to help the kid. A bystander would just stand by and watch it happen and not do anything about it.

  11. I would try to ignore the online stuff intill it came to school, and everyone is talking about it. Then it would really become personal and I would go to the principle talk to him about the person that did it. Although i would try to start stuff with him in person he would get in should delete it and could be in serious trouble.

  12. If I was in a online bullying I would make them stop and try to help as much as I can to the victim. A upstander is somebody that they against the bullies while a bystander lets them do it.

  13. People should have respect for others no matter if they are playing, some may take it serious and get their parents involved or even the law.

  14. I know that if I seen someone beeing buulied I would probably stay out of their businees. I would stay out of the persoson that is getting bullied bussiness because, maybe it would put preasure on the bully and he/she may do something that could cause both me and the kid getting bullied upset, and possibly may lead into a death or a harmful ending.

  15. Getting internet that works. WiFi that doesn’t mess up and isn’t slow no matter how many people are on it. Have a little tiny box that you can carry with you for an internet box for your iPod or iPad or kindle etc. Also have a password so others don’t steal your WiFi and it wont be slow.

  16. This acrticle is saying that you should never share your things or give people your password to facebook, instagram,and ect.

  17. I will get out or drop it online bullying episode.A upstander is someone who see somebody get bully and help the one who get bully and bystander is someone bully another person an a other person saw them getting bully and don’t do nothing.

  18. I have been bullied before this year at central high school my mistake was I sent pictures to a boy and he showed the whole entire school and now I am learning from this mistake .

  19. I’ve been bullied before online and in reality. Online somebody started a rumor that I was talking stuff about people I almost got kicked off the website for something I didn’t even do . In real life I was bullied for being myself,or how the way I looked like .

  20. I created a twitter and the firsrt time I was on it a girl from my school posted something about me but at the time I didn’t have one so she didn’t think I could see it. She called me awful names and said that I was doing things that I wasn’t. I handled it the wrong way and postsed something back about her but no one knew it was about her and I didnt tag her. Then she started it again and tagged me and we got into a big fight on twitter. I now know that I should ask her about it first and not do it over social media.

  21. Upstander is when somebody takes up for someone getting bullied. Sometimes when people dont take up for somebody whos getting bullied, means they dont want to get in the drama. it takes someone who has confidence and is brave to stand up for what they believe in.

  22. If I was in an arguement online I would probably report the person. Then I would block them. Then I would go on with life.

  23. Posting something online never goes away. Not getting permission from someone and posting it online can lead into any different problems such as a fight or even ending yourself in court. Commenting on someone post negatively leads into bullying.The best way is to keep your thoughts to your self and watch what you put online and also respect others and they will respect you.

  24. A problem that I have is im slower as learning, and i cant keep my grades above a C. I think I could get a medicine that would help me concentrate, or help me get smarter.

  25. If I ever found my self in an online bully episode, then I would probably feel bad. The difference between a upstander and a bystander, is that a upstander just doesn’t let them keep doing it they always stop before it gets into something it shouldn’t get into. I have been a bully before and I regret it, because no one deserves to be bullied, and there were times when I wasn’t a bully and helped someone that was getting bullied.

  26. If I found myself in a bullying “episode” online I would immediately tell a parent or guardian about it and block or sign off the social media or game. You don’t want to just ignore the person and let them continue, but you don’t want to ‘talk back” and make it worse. If you are being a bystander, you aren’t solving the problem, but by being an upstander, you stop the problem. I haven’t really been in/ seen a bullying problem online, but If i were to I’d be sure to do something about it.

  27. Integrity – the ability to do what is right even though no one may be watching. As much as people telling you what is right, or doing what is right may sound good, ultimately the decision rests with you. What will you do when someone bullies someone you care about? What decisions will you make?

  28. Most people automatically just think they deserve respect from others when they do not give it back. They do not realize that respect is earned not just given.

  29. It is hard to find a student who does not have many of the social media sites today. Students should not take part in bullying online. If they happen to see any bullying or hazing online they should report it so they can help. The internet is a very handy thing to have, but it can also cause a lot of trouble when people do not show repesct for the morals and rules that should given to everyone.

  30. Respect is key in life. If you give other people respect, you will most likely get repsect shown to you. Teens today seem to not care about respecting others. It seems that they have forgotten how much respect means in life. If I were to see someone being bullied online, I would step in to help them. You don’t know how much that could mean to somone if you stepped in while they were being bullied and gave them encouragement.

  31. I think that online bullying is terrible, and it happens so often. Most teens are very brave online, and they sometimes take things way too far. I believe that it is very important to stand up for others in person, as well as online!

  32. Cyber bullying happens more than what I think gets recognized. People don’t realize that there is in fact someone on the otherside of the computer screen. We have a way to send messages to each other without even thinking about the outcome of the situation. People need to become more aware of what typed words can do to someone, along with spoken words.

    • Haley – I think you are correct. People do not realize that the message they are sending through the technology is being delivered and received by a real live human being with feelings and emotions. We all need to think before we post. We need to have compassion for the person on the other side of the conversation. You are dead on when you say that people need to become more aware of what typed words, just like spoken words, can do to someone. Very good post! Thanks for sharing!

  33. If I saw some cyber bullying online, I would get involved. I would first tell the bully to stop, and then I would encourage the victim and hopefully prevent them from retaliating. Also, I would try not to get too involved to the point where I would begin to bully the bully. You don’t want to fight fire with fire.

    • Zach – You make three great points here. 1) Stand up for the victim and encourage the victim – kind words mean a lot in a situation like that. 2) Not getting too involved. When we begin to bully the bully we are no better people than the bully. I would encourage you to also involve an adult in the situation as well. The sooner the better. They will be able to help advise and intervene should it become necessary. Thanks for posting!

  34. I’m strongly against any form of cyber bullying. As technology grows, the more cyberbullying takes place. If I’m in the middle of an online argument, I would simply delete everything I’ve posted. Everyone just wants to look “cool” by arguing online so everyone can see who comes up with the best comebacks.

    • Kasie – Remember that simply deleting something online does not make it disappear. It can remain around in many forms. The best thing is not to get involved at all!

  35. I would feel really depressed because I wouId think everyone else who didn’t say anything didn’t care. An upstander is someone who stands up for something, while a bystander is someone who stands by and does nothing. Sometimes I feel worse about standing by and watching someone getting made fun of than being made fun of myself.

  36. I would try to help the person getting bullied and tell the bully to leave them alone because it is not right to pick on others. To stand up for one another.It’s never a good idea to bully.

  37. If I found myself involed in online bullying, I would tell adult to make it stop. A upstander is somebody who would tell a adult if they are getting bullyed. A bystander is someone who watches bullying happen. And I have never been bullyed.

    • An upstander doesn’t just involve an adult when then themselves are being bullied, but stands up for what is right in front of his/her friends and involves an adult even if they are not the victim of bullying.

  38. If I were involved in something like that there is a lot of steps I would take. One would be contacting the person directly, the next would be to try to ignore it. If it comes to it I guess I would report the person.To be an upstander is to stand up for someone who is being bullied. To be a bystander is to watch online bullying happen and not do anything about it.

  39. I’ve learned about bullying this year. Especially since it is so common these days. In my opinion, online bullying is much worse. When someone is bullying online, they don’t have to say whatever they are writing to that persons’ face. Being an upstander is when a person helps whoever is getting bullied. I would feel like I would be an upstander if I was ever in that situation.

  40. If I found myself in a situation where I was being bullied online, I would stand up for myself. I wouldn’t be mean or negative to the person or people who posted the original problem starter or comments. I wouldn’t let the negative people walk all over me, however. I would be firm and strong instead of nasty and hateful.
    An upstander is someone who stands up for a victim of bullying, whereas a bystander is someone who sees the bullying occur, but does nothing about it. I haven’t had any bad experiences with bullying but people who leave compliments on anyone’s personality is definitely a good thing, and should happen more often.

  41. If I found myself involved in a online bullying situation, I think I would show a trusted adult, like one of my counsulers, teachers, or maybe even my parents.
    If you’re an upstnader, you stand up for the student being bullied, and you try to stop the bullying.
    One time, I was being bullied online, and I told my consuler, and he stopped it, and made it better.
    The school can really help.

  42. If I were ever to find myself in a bullying episode, I probably would not have been the bully. Normally if i see someone getting bullied i try and help them. I don’t help the person that is the one bullying the person. i like to help the person that is being bullied. Being a up stander is when you help the person being a bully. A bystander is where you just sit there and watch the bullying happen.

  43. If i ever saw or heard that some one was being bullied, i would try to make the person that is being the bully to quit. It is always wrong, no matter what, to bully any one. If you ever see some one being bullied stand up for them. The diffrence between a bystander and an upstander is to actually stand up for any one!

  44. What would you do if you found yourself involved in an online bullying episode? What does it mean to be an upstander rather than a bystander? Share your experiences, good and bad, so that we can all learn together.
    If I found myself involved in an online bullying episode, I would hopefully not be the bully. I would rather be the person getting bullied. Bullies can cause people to feel bad about themselves, and that is their goal, to make you feel bad about yourself. These types of people can cause people to kill themselves all because of one post. Although I have never been bullied and never seen bullying happen. Here’s my advice to you, if you are a bully, understand everything you are doing to them. If you are being picked on, be brave and take your stand.

  45. I hate to see people get bullied, and I do my best to help those when I can. Though being a victim of bullying, I came to terms with it, and forgave the ones who bullied me. I mean, nobody is born mean, it is instinct to hate what you don’t understand. Just earlier today, I helped a girl out with her algebra 2. She said she hated it, so I asked why. She said she didn’t understand it. I always go back to the time when I was bullied. What they didn’t like was the fact I was really skinny, and that my clothes were to small. Later did I found out, my mother refused to buy me clothes, and instead went to get her hair, and nails done, every day. The skinny part was just high metabolism, which I am sometimes picked on even now for. Especially since I have to carry around snack bars to make sure I don’t pass out, and to keep me focus in class. What I wish I could tell them were those night my mom forgot to get me and my sisters dinner. Where I would pass out, not even feeling my body hit the ground, my eyes slowly closing, going into horrible sleep. where all you want is to wake up, and know everything is ok. Nothing scares me more then that horrible feeling, and it still scares me today.

  46. In that situation, I would try to be an up-stander and stand up for the person who is being harassed. If the bullying continues, I would tell either my parents or an adult at school. I have been in situation where my friends was being cussed out by someone he didn’t even know, and when I tried to stand up for them, they started bullying me too. Eventually, i just blocked the bully.

  47. To be a bystander, you watch from the side lines. You don’t step into a situation whenever someone is bullying someone else or is getting bullied.

  48. I think an upstander obviously stands up for someone or something and a bystander just watches quietly as something is happening. From my experiences cyber bullying is never necessary and sometimes a simple joke can turn into a life changing event for the person being bullied. I think everyone should just follow the rule were always told: if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it at all.

  49. I believe that if you are getting cyber bullied you should stand up for yourself in a mature way. First by taking your situation off social media and resolving the issue in person. If someone is being cyber bullied, talk to the person who is causing it and tell them to be calm and solve the situation wisely. If problems get to serious you can talk to an adult, block them, or just delete your social media all together.

  50. I think respect is extremely important, especially digitally. Digital bullying can envoke thoughts, specifically in teenagers, that cause depression and other emotions that can lead to the taking of their own life.By showing respect to others everywhere no matter who they are should guarantee that you will get respect in return and in result not have to go through the stresses of going through online bullying.

  51. I would help the person who is getting bullied online to not be sad and just not listen to the bully. An upstander is a person who helps in the situation and tells the person to ignore the other person and a bystander is a person who doesnt help in the situation.

  52. What many people don’t realize is that respect has to be earned, you don’t just automatically get respected. When you can earn someone’s respect,that goes a long way.

  53. No one likes to be bullied, especially by a group of people. Keep this in mind next time you see someone getting picked on online. Would you like to be in their shoes? I try to keep this in mind whenever I see someone getting picked on and it sometimes helps me to stand up for them.

  54. If I found myself in an online bullying situation, I’d probably just try to ingore it. I’m not the type of person to go tell a teacher or higher authority. That could possibly lead to more problems, and a lot of the times doesn’t really do much.

  55. I think respect is very important for people to have because if they dont respect others then how are they suppose to gain other peoples respect. Having respect for other people physically and online can save a lot of problems and keep people out of trouble. I think most people just post things about other people to be funny and not really meanig to hurt their feelings or get into serious trouble.

  56. Being bullied on line happens almost everyday and we may not know it. Monitoring post and making sure what you post can not be taken the wrong way is something you should do before every log in to social media. Being positive and keeping a good attitude is something that can effect the outcome of a post. If you feel like what you post can be taken the wrong way do not post it or delete it. If something is going on between people posting or tweeting about it only creates a bigger problem. you should be able to trust yourself that what you say is acceptable and if you can not trust yourself take a break log off and give yourself some time to cool down.

  57. I have personally never been online bullied, but i watched it take place. When I whitnessed the bullying I didnt just let it happen I took a stand and said my personal thoughts about the subject matter. When I stood up for the student getting bullied the person bullying them stopped commenting and left them alone. I dont understand why people bully beacuse everyone is the same no matter of skin color or ethnicity!

  58. This is a relatively gray area that often times goes unnoticed by school administrators. It is always best to stand up for people who are getting bullied but it is also very important to learn how to stand up for yourself. The way things work in schools today, however, I can understand why these relatively simple actions can be difficult.

    The fact is that there is no true dealing of justice in school anymore. Students who defend themselves are labelled as equal to those who started the bullying in the first place. While this mentality is primarily used by administrators to discourage fighting, it also gives students a false assumption that there will always be someone to stand up for them just because they choose not to. In the real world, this is never the immediate case. The bottom line is, if you want other students to stand up for you, they have to know that you are willing to stand up for yourself first.

    Just my thoughts on this issue.

  59. In all honesty, I’m not sure what I’d do in the situation. I may try to keep it between those involved and solve it among ourselves or I may need to enlist adult help to solve it. Being a bystander you just let things go and don’t get involved. You take a laissez-faire attitude, whereas an up stander would help defend the victim and try to fix the problem.

  60. If I saw someone being bullied online, I would do my best to help that person. Online bullying happens way too often. An upstander would stand up and help the person being bullied while a bystander would just stand by and watch and do nothing about it.

  61. If I was involved in an online bullying I would first show my parents or a trusted adult. If I was a bystander then I would stick up for that person just like if it wasn’t online.

  62. People should respect themselves and others online. Words hurt people’s feelings, and it can be even worse online becasue everyone can see it.

  63. I have been involved in online and offline bullying. One time it’s happened was when one of my “friends” were spreading fake lies about me and other people by saying that the others were calling me hateful and cruel names. Eventually I told my parents about this incident and they had it stopped. To be honest, if things wouldn’t have gotten that bad, I would not have told my parents.
    An upstander is someone who stands up for people that are the victim of being bullied.

  64. I would be an upstander and tell the bully to stop and if they don’t I would report the abuse. Being an upstander means standing up for someone that is being bullied.

  65. Respest is a thing that any one needs to have. The reason I,m saying this is because if you dont respect people we will be outcast to our freindaly envioment. # Always do good

  66. If I found myself in an online bullying episode I would talk to the person being bullied and tell the person who was being the bully to stop. If it continued I would tell the victim to talk to their parents or I would tell someone. Doing the things I said is being an upstander. Being a bystander is just ignoring the bully and the victim and saying “this isn’t my problem.” I’ve never had to stand up to a cyber-bully but I have had really embarrasing pictures put on Facebook by friends. However, I asked her to delete them and she did so I wasn’t mad.

  67. If I found my self in the midst of a cyber bulling going on, I would probably try to do something about it , and if I couldn’t then I would contact a trusted adult. An up stander is some one that does something about cyber bulling and a by stander is some one who sees it but doesn’t do anything about it.

  68. If i found myself in a bullying episode I would tell a trusted adult. Then I would try to ignore what they are saying until it stops. An upstander will do something to stop bullying, but a bystander will not. I have seen someone being bullied for looking different from everyone else. I helped the person by telling them to ignore it and tell an adult.

  69. If I found myself in an online bullying episode then I would report it to a teacher or an adult. To become an up stander then you must get involved with the online bullying by standing up for the person getting bullied. The exact opposite of an up stander is a by stander which is a person that sees bullying happen, but does nothing to help it. One time my friend was talking to this guy and he was being really mean to her. So I told her to stop talking to him and to go tell her mom so she can contact his mother to make sure she knows what he has being doing.

  70. If I found myself involved in an online bullying episode, then I would immediately exit out of whatever conversation I was in, and tell an adult about it. I would probably tell my parents because they know me best and I know I can trust them. I would also tell the bully to stop, and try to help the person being bullied to feel better. I would give positive encouragement, because I know that bullying can have a lasting affect and hurt someone deeply, even if they are just words on a screen. I would be an upstander. Upstanders stand up for the person being bullied and make sure the situation gets taken care of in a safe way. The opposite of this would be a bystander. Bystanders stand by and watch the bullying happen. They know something is going on, but they do nothing to stop it. I have never been bullied online, but if I ever see it, then I will be an upstander instead of a bystander.

  71. I would help the person who is being bullied by confronting the bully or telling an adult. To be a bystander is when you watch bullying happen but being an upstander is helping the person.

  72. If I was involved in an event where someone was getting bullied I would help. The difference between an up stander and bystander is an up stander would try to help the person that was getting bullied. While the bystander would just stand there and watch or walk away.

  73. If I ever found myself in an online bullying issue, I would be an upstander. Other people would choose to let it happen, but not me. I would try to solve the problem in a rational way, but if it gets bad to the point where its hurting the person mentally or physically then an adult needs to get involved. It isn’t right to have someone picked on over such little things. Bullying is a big issue and should never happen.

  74. If I was being cyberbullied I would try to just ignore it. The difference between an upstander and a bystander is an upstander does everything in his/her power to stop the situation.

  75. I would not to be afiad of this person and I would go tell a adult or someone that you can trust. Do not be scared because the bulley says that if you teel anybody about this that he will beat you up or something to that point. Keep it up and don’t be scared.

  76. I see online bullying going on a lot. Unfortuantly, I never really step up & stand up for someone. I’ve never been cyber bullied to the point where it actually affected me. But, i’ve seen it really affect someone before. I try to stay out of drama as much as possible. I have always tried to stay out of drama thats why I don’t stick up for people as often as I should. I know if I did stick up for someone, & someone else started saying something to me, I would have to say something back. Then from there on out it would be a disaster.

  77. i think bullying is very cruel and sholdnt be done because. If you end up hurting someone very badly they could be hospitalized and wont be able to come to school. And i dont think anyone deserves to be treated like that when you are just taking your anger out on a person that doesnt deserve that you could get help in other ways.

  78. If I was involved in a bullying episode I would tell an adult about the situation. An upstander is a person who witnesses bullying and does something about it. A bystander is a person who witnesses bullying and does nothing about it. When I was in first grade some older kid wouldn’t stop picking on me. I asked him to stop but he wouldn’t. Then I told my dad and he talked to his parents and the older kid stopped picking on me.

  79. If I where in an online bullying episode I would try to help the person that is being attacked however I could. I think that to be an upstander rather than a bystander it means to do something couragous to help the person that is being victimised, I also think it is important to get help from an adult that would handle the situation the right way as if a boy is getting picked on physically, a father might not be a goood choice because they might be too protective or agressive.

  80. I would try to be nice to the person so I could get them not to be mad at me. If that didn’t work I would tell him if he is going to keep being mean to me I will beat him up. To be an upstander is to stand up to the person that us bullying another kid. To be a bystander is to watch it happen while not doing nothing about it. One of my experiences was that a kid keep picking on me and I asked him to stop but he didn’t. Since he didn’t the next day we went to school i got into a fight with him.

  81. If I found myself in an online bullying situation,I would tell my teachers or parents. To be an upstander rather than a bystander means to stand up for what is right rather than stand by and let Something happen that is wrong

  82. If I was involved in an online bullying episode, this is what I would go on with my day because I don’t care what people say about me because it not true and I have other stuff to do with my life. Another thing if they can say it online I bet they won’t say it to your face. Up stander mean that you are standing up for that person and you don’t care what they do. By stander is that you are to scare to help that person because it might happen to them. My good experience is when I help someone everyday hey you know I would let them bully me over someone else because I don’t really care and all they can do is talk but people is going to talk about tell the day you die. What I think people can learn is don’t give your life up for something stupid and I think that we can stand up and with the people that are being bully and solve it this is what we can all learn together.

  83. If you are being bullied online tell somebody whether it be teacher the police or your parents just speak up tell an adult tell your friends see if they’ll do something and if they don’t speak up for you and everyone who is being cyber bullied or being bullied in real life if you see somebody saying something hurtful to you or your friends or anybody you know tag the account print the stuff they are saying about you or your friends or anybody.

  84. If I found myself somehow involved in someone being bullied or me being bullied, the do my best to stay out of it but most of the time I will be polite and say that even though neither of them agree does not are a few things I would do. First I would be polite and ask them/tell them to stop. I have never been bullied but I know, and have seen people who have. To me bulling is not okay no matter the situation. I would also tell an adult especially if it was a friend of mine or anyone actually, because bulling is a very serious thing many people try to commit suicide, or harm themselves because of what people say. An upstander is someone who will actually do something about people being bullied. To where a bystander would just watch and not do anything to help. I have never been bullied before idleast that I can remember, I have had people say things about me but it does not bother me, because their opinions do not matter to me. In bad situation I have only seen happen such as people on Twitter, or Instagram saying things to people or about people for being rude about things they said about popular boys from vine. Iot mean to me rude, and that if the person being rude says something rude I ask them what’s the point? If they don’t like them why waste their time to post about them. Well these are my thought and experiences.

  85. I would take action and help the victim. I’ve been bullied in my time, and it’s not been pleasant. I would tell the bully to stop, and if it continued I would then report it to the website moderators to deal with the matter. If that hasn’t worked, then I’d be sure to tell an adult about the problem. And if there still continues to be a problem, the police would be involved. Bullying, or negative comments toward someone, is not “cool”, nor is it “funny”. Bullying is a serious matter and should be taken care of immediately, so we can control the problem.

  86. If I was to find myself in an online bullying episode, I would most likely check what the problem was and if its that serious or not. For example, if someone was calling someone names and making fun of what they look like I would most likely comment on it and tell whoever is getting bullied to not listen to what other people think or say. The only reason they are being a bully is to bring you down, or they may be jealous of you. To be an Upstander, that is to stick up for the person getting bullied and to try and help. To be a Bystander, that is to let the person get bullied and not do anything about it by getting help, or telling them to stop. Putting myself in this situation i would most likely be an Upstander. The reason I say that is because bullying is not a fun experience at all, its humiliating. Having people laugh and make fun of you is just disapointing. I have been a Bystander in some situations and i felt horrible. I wanted to do something to help but sometimes its just not the right thing to put yourself in that place. I know there is always going to be bullying in life but no matter what i will always try my best to be an Upstander.

  87. If the bullying is bed i would do something about it .I would report that personn to site and block the bully off my account so he/she can stop getting me into all of it and tell the other people to do the same

  88. If I found myself in online bullying episode I would be an up-stander and either speak up for me or the one being bullied. Being an up-stander means to speak up, by-stander means to not do anything. I was online bullied and I told my mom and stand up for myself.

  89. if i was in a bully episode then, i would be a up stander because it doesn’t seem right to see someone get bullied or cyber-bullied. A bystander is someone who doesn’t do anything and a up stander is someone who tries to help out the person who is getting bullied.

  90. If I found myself in the midst of an online bully, I would defend the people who are being bullied. I think the difference between an upstander and a bystander is an upstander would stand up and try his/her best to help the person. A bystander would just stand by and watch a kid get bullied and also side with the bully so they wouldn’t get bullied.

  91. If I was caught in an online bullying episode, I would help the person being bullied. Everyone deserves respect in one way or another, online or in person. I would tell the person being bullied is that the bully is trying to get into your head, all you have to do is ignore the bully and don’t let them get into your head

  92. If I found that I was involved in an online bullying episode, I would want to help the person if they were my friend, or if it’s me getting bullied I would stand up for myself and tell them to stop. If you are an upstander, then you are standing up for that person, but if you are a bystander, then you are just watching it happen and not saying anything.

  93. If I found myself in an online bullying episode, I would make sure to contact an adult or someone with authority that could help in any way. An upstander is someone who would stand up for someone being bullied, while a bystander sits back and watches it happen without action. One of my personal experiences of bullying was on Ask.fm. My friend was sent all of these horrible messages, anonymously, and was told to kill herself. It was anonymous, so we couldn’t figure out who sent the mean messages, but many people had stood up for her, including me, and told her positive things about herself so she wouldn’t feel those things were true.

  94. If I was involved in a bullying episode as a bully I would try to apologize and get out of it as quickly as I can, if I was being bullied I would try to report it, or If I wasn’t either I would stand up to the bully, and for the other kid. An upstander helps the person who’s being bullied while an bystander would just stand by and let it happen.

  95. I have experienced online bullying and if i was in that situation i would try to ignore it but if it got worse, then i would tell them to stop or, tell an adult about it. To me, being a bystander is when you see it happening and you either don’t wanna get in the middle of it, or you don’t feel the need to help out because your not involved in it.To be an upstander would be if you did feel the need to help out, you would say something to that person or you would tell an adult about whats going on. Or you could just simply let the person that’s getting bullied know that your there for them.

  96. If I found myself in an online bullying episode I would first stand up for whoever is getting bullied. Being a bystander is not the thing to do when you see cyber bullying. A Bystander is someone who sees bulling, but does nothing to help. A upstander is someone who sees bulling, and stands up for them. At our school a few kids made a twitter account about our school and posted mean and rude things about people, calling them out. Then people told trusted adults about this online bullying. This brought it to peoples attention, and they removed the page.

  97. If i found myself in a situation of online bullying I would just ignore it. If it is bad enough the person can bring it up with me face to face and we can resolve our problems. To be an upstander means to stand up for someone and say something about it, tell the bully to stop. Whereas a bystander just doesn’t do anything about it at all and lets it happen. I recently have seen a twitter account made about our school and all it was doing was putting people down at our school. Some kids in my class brought it up to a teacher during school and got the account deleted.

  98. If I found myself getting into bullying online, I would wonder how I got into it in the first place. I wouldnt bully anyone online, and I would hope I wouldn’t be getting bullied online. To be an upstander, means that you do something to stop the bullying that is going on and not sitting there and just watching it happen. To be a bystander, means that you just sit back and not do anything about the bullying, and not stand up for the person that is getting bullied.

  99. If I saw someone being cyber bullied I would be an upstander and help them. I would show a teacher or any other adult what has been said. Next I would report it to the website and say what has been going on. Last I would talk with the victim and insure him/her that the problem will be solved soon.

  100. If I found myself in an online bullying episode, I would first stand up for myself and not let them push me around. Eventually if it became more serious, I would block the sender and avoid them. An upstander is a person who stands up to the one bullying. A bystander is the complete opposite. They stand by and let the bullying happen, not doing anything to stop it. My experience with this is some people were ganging up on my best friend on Instagram. I stood up for her and asked them to stop being immature. I have had many other experiences with this situation. This sort of thing happens a lot for teens or people of all ages.

  101. If I was cought in the middle of a cyber bullying episode I would make sure the cyber bully would stop and he’d know that what he/she is doing is not right and is something that shouldn’t be even joked around by in the smallest way. I think an Upstander is someone who sees something bad happening and dose something about it, while a bystander is someone who sees something happening and dose nothing to stop it. At my school a group of people made a twitter account and attacked people at our school, a few kids brought it to the attention of a teacher and got the account taken off.

  102. If i ever found myself in a online bullying episode i would report it to the site and to a trusted adult. Being an up stander means that you would stand up for the person that was getting bullied. And a bystander meas that you see it but you don’t do anything about it.

  103. If i was involved in cyber bullying, I would ignore it and tell them to talk to me in person not over a computer. An upstander is where you stand up to the bully and a bystander is where you dont do anything about and just sit back and watch. Ive never been cyber bullied so i dont know how it feels.

  104. If I were involved in an online bullying episode I would try and ignore it and tell my school consular about it. If I were the victim if I saw it I would still tell my consular so that the actual victim could get help with the bully. An upstander is some one who tell some one about the bullying or try and get the bully to stop. A bystander is some one that just scrolls past.

  105. I would tell a adult that I trust about the situation . A upstander means to do some thing when you see bulling online and you do some thing about it .

  106. If i found myself involved in an online bullying episode I would be an upstander and go find an adult or parent. An upstander is someone who sees cyber bullying and does something about, rather then being a bystander and seeing cyber bullying happening and does absolutey nothing.

  107. If I Found myself in an online bullying episode I would try my hardest to stand up for the victim. To be an upstander means that when you see bullying occur you take action and do something about it, but if you are a bystander you do not do anything about the situation.

  108. If I found myself in a bullying episode I would let and adult know about it. To be an up-stander is to stand up for someone rather than to watch that person get bullied.

  109. I have found myself in many online bullying incidents.I feel that Cyber Bullying isn’t only online but through text messages as well.its the same concept when the Bully is abusing through any electronic devise.i have been cyber bullied before, over text message.One of my experiences was people calling me cruel name that were uncalled for and untrue.I think i handled it pretty well and went and told my parents and got the school involved, instead of saying mean things back i didn’t say anything and i dint get in any trouble.When you are being bullied online don’t say anything back either delete it or if its really bothering you you should tell a trusted adult.I was also involved in a online bullying attack when my friend was being cyber bullied i stood up for her.When people saw me and others standing up they stood up to.The cyber bully didn’t post anything after that.

  110. If I found myself in an online bullying episode I would try to help as much as I could in the situation, meaning tell a trusted adult or delete the comments. The difference between an upstander and a bystander is that a upstander would help the situation and tell someone. A bystander is some one that watches the bullying and does not help.

  111. If I found myself in the middle of an online bullying episode I would try to defend the person being bullied. An upstander is someone who takes action to help someone who is being bullied. A bystander is someone who sees bullying happening, but does nothing about it. Showing people respect is very important. You should not say anything to someone online that you wouldn’t say in person.

  112. When someone is a cyber bully that means to me that they have a issue. Whether it be with family, friends, or school. When someone tries to bully me I ignore it and then feel bad for them that they feel like they have to do something like that to make themselves feel better. What is an up stander? An up stander is a person that sees the bulling and does something about it, where a bystander is someones that sees it and doesn’t do anything about it

  113. If I found myself reading what a person has posted that could potentially hurt somebody, I would be an up-stander. Being an up-stander means that you stand up for people when they are getting bullied. Bullying is a very serious predicament because it has the potential to make a person harm themselves because they feel hated or not liked. I would protect those who were getting bullied. I personally have been an up-stander to a bully. One of my friends was getting called dumb because he misspelled a few words on his post. The bully was really making him feel like he wasn’t as smart as he really was so this hurt his self- esteem. I told the bully that he should just not say anything if he knew it was going to be mean. The bully deleted the comment and didn’t say anything anymore.

  114. If i was wastching someone get bullied i would help and try to make that person feel better about their self.Than just a bully picking on them.Be an upstander and help not a bystander and not.I also think that it isnt right to bully on the web and in real life.Dont post something on the web that you wont say in real life.It can still hurt the person being bullied’s feelings

  115. If I found myself involved in an online bullying episode, I would try to stop the bullying and to help whoever is getting bullied. If I was getting bullied, I’m sure my friends would stand up for me. I would tell a trusted adult what was going on to make the bullying stop. These actions describe an up-stander. An up-stander stands up for people that are getting bullied. A bystander just stands by and watches the bullying occur, doing nothing to stop it. I have personally been a bystander multiple times, but I know now that it is important to be an up-stander and help those who are being bullied online.

  116. If I ever found my self in an online bullying situation I would tell an adult or a teacher. A bystander is some one who sees it happening but does nothing. An upstander is someone who sees it happening and does something about it. I have never been bullied online but I have seen it happening before.

  117. In a bullying situation it is hard to know what to do. If I saw bullying happening online, I would tell someone I know that can help about it. The reason I do this is because I have seen bullying get very bad. There was this girl that was getting teased about not being like other girls. It wasn’t that she was totally different than every other girl. She was just somewhat different. She took all of the stuff people said to heart. It had gotten so bad that she threatened to kill herself. Being an upstander is someone that stands up to the bullies, but the bystanders do not. If you are an upstander you could save people’s lives.

  118. An up-stander is a person who stands up for bullying. A bystander is a person who sees bullying happen and does nothing about it. If i found myself in an online bullying episode i would ignore it because all they are trying to do is make you feel bad about your self.

  119. To be an up stander is to help speak up.One time when i found myself in a cyber bullying when a girl was on Facebook calling a couple girls some very rude and harsh names. I spoke up but then the girl started picking on me. Honestly i didn’t care but some people take it personal and that’s what causes issues. I hope that the bullying stops and people would just mind their own business. That goes with the saying, if you don’t have something nice to say, then don’t say it at all.

  120. More and more people are becoming victims of online bullying, so it isn’t hard to spot. Even if it is a joke, the victim could take it seriously and that will lead to some major issues. Being bullied isn’t good, whether it be online or in person. People tend to focus more on online bullying now because it’s an easy way to offend someone. Whether it’s a friend of your or not, i believe if you see someone being bullied, you should take action and be an upstander in the situation. It’s always nice knowing that someone cares and is willing to take a stand. Being a bystander would just be taking the easy way out. I think that we all need to start taking action and taking some responsibility.

  121. In a bullying episode I would try to tell the person doing the bullying to calm down and stop picking on the other person. Also I would try to show a parent or teacher, so they could help with the issue. Another thing is that I would try to be an up stander instead of a bystander, so I would stand up for whoever is getting bullied and tell the person who is doing the bullying to stop. One experience I have had with this is when I saw a friend in an argument with someone, so I showed my mom and then my mom called his mom. When this happened my friend’s mom made my friend stop the bullying and the argument ended.

  122. If I found myself involved in an online bullying episode, I would contact a trusted adult immediately. The longer you would wait, the worse the bullying can get. By doing so, that would make me a upstander. A bystander is a person who sees or is involved in bullying but does nothing to help. An upstander is someone who tells an adult about the situation and gets the help that the target needs. If I was the person being bullied, I would want an upstander to come and help me and be by my side. Sometimes the person that is being bullied doesn’t know what to do or how to stop the bully. That is where the upstander comes in and helps them find a trusted adult to talk to.

  123. I would inform an adult or report it, so the bullying would be stopped. When your an up-stander, you stand up for people that are getting bullied online and when your a bystander, you just sit back and watch the person get bullied. One experience i had was when i saw one of my friends getting picked on, but I just watched it and did’y do anything which made me a bystander.

  124. i would really try to help someone that is being bullied by someone. I think it is wrong that people are being bullied and no one wants to try and help.The problem is that know one will tell a parent or teacher because they are afraid people will call them a snitch. And then they will start picking on them.

  125. I would stand up for the person being bullied and I would get an adult if he/she tried using physical force. An upstander is someone who stands up for other people. A bystander is someone who just stands there and lets it happen instead of getting and adult or something.

  126. The difference between a bystander and a upstander would be how you react if you were put into a situation that involved online bullying. A bystander sits on the side and allows for the bullying to continue while an upstander will stand up against the kids who are bullying for the justification of the kid being picked on. Our societiy has tought us to “Treat others how we would ant to be treated”. Clearly online and sometimes even in person we don’t think about our reactions to people in the moment. If you have ever been bullied and you see it starting online or right infront of you don’t be afraid to stand up for a kid simply because your afraid of what some people might think. If online and you’re the one being bullied then I encourage you to stay away from the site where all those cruel things are said; get your parents involved and forget about trying to be a “cool kid” and deal with it on your own, sometimes we need help and it isn’t bad to ask for it in situations.

  127. If I found myself in the middle of a bullying episode I would want to be the one who tells the bully to stop messing with the person getting bullied. There isn’t a person on Earth who has the right to make fun of others, especially for things they can’t control. I think an upstander is someone who stands up for what is right and tells the bully to stop making fun of people. Bystanders just let the situation go and don’t try to do anything to stop it. Bullying has gotten worse now that bullies can hide behind the computer, but that doesn’t mean they can’t be stopped if just one person speaks up.

  128. I think Bullying is horrible and people should respect others but also people should earn respect as well. Sometimes though, people bring bullying on themselves. The upstander is the person who stands up and defends the person getting bullied. A bystander is a person who lets it happen without trying to help.

  129. I’ve never been involved in bullying online. If I was I would probably get offline and try not to get involved. To be an upstander means that a person would get involved and stand up for the person being bullied. Being a bystander means that a person stands by and watches the bullying and doesn’t do anything about it.

  130. Online bullying happens to a lot of people. What would I do f I was in the middle of a bullying online session? Well….. there is a lot of things that would be necessary to try to defend the kid that was being bullied in the case but, in a lot of cases the bullies have a background to. Hear me out, don’t think that i am standing up for the bully but, a lot of times the bully might have issues at home. Maybe over a tough thing that took place. What about a divorce, family member dying, abuse, E.C.T . I am not defending the bully i am just throwing that opinion around the corner at you. A lot of times the kid would be bullied for a reason, maybe silly reasons like hair, religion, portfolio, and looks. —–> CONTINUE

  131. If that ever happened to me I would tell an officer or aan adult about my sittuation. Also an upstander is a person who stands up for cyperbulling and helps, a bystander is a person who for example reads what a cyberbully has said and doesn’t do anything about it. I never have gotten cyberbullied by I have gotten bullied at school before and it is horrible! I used to get bullied on the tiniest things. But finially told my parents and they made the child stop bulling me.

  132. If I was the one getting bullied then I would tell someone right away. A up-stander is someone that sees bulling happening and stands up for the kid. A bystander is a person that sees bulling happening but doesn’t want to be a tattle tale or is to scared to stand up for the kid. I haven’t been bullied but I have seen someone being bullied and i wasn’t scared because I know my strength but I didn’t punch him I backed him off and I didn’t hurt him.

  133. I have never found myself in an online bully episode, but if i did i would not ever reply, then i would tell my parents. Its better to be an upstander than a bystander, because if your an upstander the kid who gets bullied will look up to you and will help you when you get into trouble with bullies. I have never been bullied and hope to never be bullied, but i will be an upstander if i do see bullying!

  134. Am upstander is a person who is brave and does not stay back and watch them fight. An upstander is someone who will stand up for someone that is getting bullyed. A bystander is someone who sits and watches people getting bullyed and doesent stand up for that person.

  135. I was bullied online. I don’t know why the person didn’t even know and I didn’t know them. My brothers seen the messages and they stood up for me even if was online. I know that if I’m get bullied on or off line I can count on my brothers to be there and end all the hurtful things. After I got bullied online I never talked to that person onine again. I never even went back to that website after that.

  136. I would go tell an adult or my parents if I was involved with an online bullying episode. The difference between an upstander and a bystander is that the upstander would stick up for the person being bullied where to as a bystander would watch the bullying while it is occuring and doesnt take action or do anything to help. I have never been bullied personally but I have been involved in a cyber bully. I saw the person post nasty and dirty comments and i tried to stand up for the victim but the bully just never stopped. So then I went and told my parents and they spoke with the bully and he stopped.

  137. If I was found in an online bullying episode I would tell a trusted adult. If the person went to my school I would tell the principal. An upstander is someone that stands up for the person who is getting bullied. A bystander is someone that doesn’t stand up for the bullies he\she just watches.

  138. if i were the one being online i go to an adult and if a adult doesnt do anything about it i would go to which ever site the person was on and tell them to stop if they wont then the legal inforcement will have a little talk with however

  139. If I found myself involved in online bullying, I would do what ever it takes to help the kid who is being bullied. I think the difference between an upstaander and a bystander, is that an upstander helps out and stands up for the person who is being bullied, and a bystander sees it, but does nothing to help. I am very lucky to be able to say that I have never seen this, or had this happen to me. If it did, I know that who ever is being bullied can count on me, and if I was being online bullied, I know that someone would be there, ready to help out.

  140. If I seen someone in a online bullying episode I would tell my parents. If they go to my school I would tell one of the teachers about it.The upstander is where you do something about it.The bystander is where you stand up for someone. I would help out the person if they are getting bullied.

  141. If i knew someone was getting bullied i would be a upstander i would help the person who was getting bullied i would not just be a bystander and jst sit around i would go help them out i would go tell a teacher or then i would tell them to stop and lots of people are diffrent dosent mean you can just be mean to them because if the clothes or how they look and that is all i got to say

  142. If I was in a situation, like a online bullying process, I would tell the police, or my parents, or even my school principal.
    I would just ignore it, because there trying to start a fight, so I would just ignore that, because some day someone will find out that your bullying other people, and your gonna be the one in trouble, and not only will your parents will find out, that law would too. It doesn’t matter what they wear, or how they look, because they might be going through hard times, with there family, so try to be nice. So I watch what I say, and what I do. Because I don’t want to become them in the future.

  143. myself hasn’t been involved in that stuff but being a upstander means you can help kids that need it most .i would rather be a upstander than

  144. I would tell a adult, or a teacher.I would not reply, and just let them handel it.Also try to stand up for that persone, one day that can be you.I no you would not like to fell that way , so why do you hafe to do that to somebody. I hope this would not happen to me, but poeple can be harch. If we can figer out why these bulles thank thats its cool, we can try to stop it.

  145. If I was involved in an online bullying episode I would tell a trusted adult about it.
    An upstander is someone who stands up for someone when their being bullied.
    A bystander is someone who see’s bullying happen but does nothing about it.
    I actually have not been bullied online but I have seen it. I stood up for the person being bullied because no one should be mistreated.

  146. If I found my self involed on in online bullying episode. I would try to help the person feel better and ask who ever is the bully to nicely stop. Being an upstander is where you help the person who is getting bullyed and see if you can do anything for that person. Like tell a teacher or parent when they are to afraid to have them sit by you at lunch so maybe the bullying will stop. Being a bystander is when you know the bullying is happening but you do nothing to stop it or help the person who is getting bullyed

  147. if i seen bullying on line i will say good stuff about them and then i will tell my parints and if they goood to my school i would tell the princidel to and tell then that she or he was bullying online and show them what they sayed and what the did to the person tjhey sayed that to .And stand up for the kid that is geting bullyed .

  148. If I was involved in online bullying I would go and tell a trusted adult,teacher ,or principal. The difference in an upstander and a bystander is a upstander builds up the courage to tell an adult or do something about it. While a bystander stands at the sidelines watching and agree what the bully says.

  149. I would try and talk to the bully and see what is rong see if he has been bullyed of if someone is pikeing on him or if he is sad or if his parents have been fighting.

    • Dalton, you do right to remind us that even when people are bullies, something caused them to be that way. Reaching out to someone who is bullying someone else with a spirit of compassion is a true act of kindness. It doesn’t always work, but it shows a tremendous amount of character to see the humanity in everyone, including a bully.

      • Again, I find myself agreeing with Tim! We must each and every one of us learn to show compassion toward every human being. When we can do that there will be no more bullies!

  150. I once witnessed someone being bullied in the hallway. The kid who was being bullied, had a learning disability. I walked up to the kids and stopped it. Never should you bully someone, let alone a disabled kid. Although, that didn’t happen online, I know that if I saw it happening I would do my best to stop it there too.

  151. Respect should always be used online. At times we may think our posts online are funny, but to other people it could be harmful. Once something is posted online it is on there forever. If you bear witness to cyber bullying you should report that person. Cyber bullying is never okay and needs to be stopped immediately.

    • Good point. We should always be careful with what we post. Never post anyhing online that might be harmful to others. Yes, sometimes things may seem funny but if we step out of the emotion of the moment and think about what we are posting before we hit that post button. It could be out there forever even if you try to delete it.

  152. I think that everyone should show respect online. When you post something that you think isn’t harmful it can cause someone a lot of discomfort and you might not know it. I recommend that if you are questioning putting something online then don’t put it.

    • Absolutely. We all have that voice that tells us that something we say might not be the right thing. We don’t always listen to that voice, though. We could save a lot of trouble if we would trust our inner-voice to filter us.

  153. If I saw someone getting bullied online and they went to my school, I would tell a teacher or I would go to the prinicple. If the kid did not go to my school, I would find out what school they went to, and I would try and get a hold of their principle. An upstander is a person who tries to help a person that is, for instance, getting bullied. A bystander is someone who stands on the outskirts and just watches bullying happen without doing anything about it.

  154. If I saw online bullying I would confront the person about it face to face. Its easier to talk that way. An upstander is someone that does something about bullying, and a bystander is a person who just watches it happen and doesn’t do anything about it.

    • Allyson, so true. Plus having the confrontation online just gives people who like to instigate more opportunity to make the situation worse. Sadly, there are a lot of people who want to watch a conflict. Bullies can be a lot less brave when they don’t have an audience and they have to defend their words in person.

  155. I would be an upstander. Being an upstander means you see bullying and take action. Being a bystander means you see bullying and do nothing.

  156. There is NO reason to belittle a person online. If you do not like someone then do not talk to them its that simple. I hate when people cause pointless drama online that could have been avoided. An upstander is a person who takes action and stands up for the person being bullied. A bystander is someone who sees the bullying ,but just stands by and says nothing.

    • I like this reply. I know we have all heard this before, but it is so true: If you cannot say anything nice about someone, then just do not say anything. Thanks for the reminder.

  157. An upstander is someone who does something about what is happening. A bystander just watches it happen form the sidelines. We should all aim to be an upstander. ending bullying starts with each of us.

  158. If I found myself involed in an online bullying episode I would tell a trusted adult,ignore what they are saying to me,and stop looking at their posts,comments,texts,etc. To be an upstander rather than a bystander you have to stand up for the person who is getting bullied and tell the bully to stop. A bystander is someone who sees bullying but does nothing to help the victim or stop the bully.

    • Cierra, I know what you mean. Sometimes folks can be very mean in the comments section of an online article, post, etc. If the comments are directed at me, I don’t give the commenter the satisfaction of a reply. But if they continue to attempt to provoke a response, I report them. Mean people can waste a lot of a person’s energy if they are allowed to.

  159. You should always show respect for others online. I would honestly probably not get involved if I saw it happening though. I feel like if I were to get involved I would be dragged into the same situation and I really feel like it’s better for people to learn to stand up for themselves.

  160. If I was involved in an online bullying episode, I would try to tell the bully to stop. If I was still being bullied, I would report it to an adult immediately. To be an upstander, you would see bullying and try your best to stop the problem as soon as possible. However, when you are a bystander, you see bullying but don’t do anything about it. A time when I shared a good experience of respect was when I helped special needs kindergartners, first, second, and some third graders. Helping these kids was awesome! They respected me very well and I respected them back. This experience taught me a lot of things including respect.

  161. Online bullying is a difficult task to manage online and offline. Sometimes when students post bad pictures of another person without them knowing could just be a tease or even flirting in some cases. It all depends on the context clues. Being respectful online to me is keeping to yourself, and not talking about your situation with someone publicly. No one needs to know your hatred for that person and it just makes social media uncomfortable.

    • It’s really about online culture. Social media can be uncomfortable when the culture of a digital space is allowed to be hateful and dark. I know that young people flock away from the social media that adults use, but an adult presence can often bring a more controlled and positive culture to a space (though, of course, not always). When I encounter people who are mean in a digital space that we share, I work to let those people know that being mean in our shared space is not okay with me. That can be uncomfortable at first, but at least I am working to keep the space comfortable in the long run.

  162. If I was apart of an online bulling episode, I would first make sure that the person being bullied is taking the bulling seriously. I would want to make sure of this because, if I was to report it and it be just a couple of friends messing around, than I might get into trouble. Being a bystander means that, you see bullying and you don’t do anything about it. Being an up-stander is numerous times better than being a bystander because being and up-stander meas that you saw bullying and did something about it. This year I showed respect by helping a girl in need, she needed help because she is permanently wheel chaired and couldn’t get herself to the end of the hallway, while holding her books.

    • Kennedy, you are so right that it is better to be an upstander. It takes courage to take care of others, but it is the right thing to do, and people respect those with the courage to do what is right.

  163. I think showing someone respect online is a really easy simple thing. Clearly if you don’t want it done to you, don’t do it to someone else, just like when you’re offline. It’s that simple. You just have to ask yourself things like that before you post or comment on anything else.

    • Such a simple thought but just not practiced, huh Audrey? If everyone would stop to think about how they themselves would feel in a certain situation life would be much better. The answer is showing compassion to EVERY human being.

  164. Respect online and offline is all the same. The same rules apply and the same punishments should be given. If someone doesnt want their picture on the internet then people should respect that and not post the picture. Same with comments or anything like that.

  165. What I would do if I was involved in a online bullying i would not answer them and tell my parents. An upstander is someone who sees bullying and does something about it. An bystander is a person that sees a person getting bullying and does nothing about it. I’ve respected a person in Kindergarten that has had trouble reading.

    • Blaise –

      Good for you standing up for that Kindergartner! One simple act like that can make a HUGE difference in someone’s life, and you may never know how large. It is great that you can talk to your parents about bullying – they should always be one of your first do to’s. Nice post!

  166. If I found myself in an online bullying episode I would tell them to stop or just ignore them and they would stop. When your a upstander it means that you are brave and you would stand up for someone else and report it to the principal or teacher and tell the bully to stop.

  167. What I would do if I was in a bullying episode I would tell him or her to stop bullying me and if he or she didn’t do what I told her to do then I would tell an adult. To be a bystander it means you see bullying and don’t do anything about it rather than being an up-stander means you do something about it. I really don’t have bad bullying moments just good one and everyone knows what a good post is it is nice.

    • Breanna – You are right. An upstander stands up for the person(s) being bullied. They do something to try to stop the bullying. Also, you are exactly right about telling a trusted adult. A guidance counselor, school liaison officer, teacher, etc… Nice job!

  168. I myself have been the victim of online bullying and it wasn’t a good time. It went on for a long time and I constantly felt like no one was there to help me. I just wanted it all to stop. I know how it feels, and that’s why I make sure that I never do that to anyone. I always think about the person and think about how I don’t know what’s going on in their life and what makes them how they are. I know that everyone is different, so I don’t discriminate against anyone, especially online.

    • Haley, this is great advice. We truly don’t know what kind of things are going on in other students’ lives. They may have just lost a family member or have a parent in the hospital and they are worried about them. These situations could change a person’s mood. We need to remember that before we go posting things about anyone. Thanks for the reply!

    • Haley,
      I hope you were able to tell an adult that you trust that this was going on. I’m glad that you recognize that we really don’t know what’s going inside someone. Keep it up.

  169. If I was watching bullying being done online I would definitely defend the kid being bullied. People that bully others most likely are hurting inside as well, and this is their way of making themselves feel better. An upstander is someone who will stand up for someone. A bystander is someone who will just stand by and watch it happen without action.

  170. If i was found in a online bullying episode i would talk about the good thing not the bad. When you are a upstander you stand up for other people not just your self. When your a bystander you just watch other people.I have never been bullied. But I have helped other people when they are bullied they were getting pushed around and were getting made fun of.

  171. If I found myself in an online bullying episode I would hope I was the one stopping the bullying.
    It means when you see something that’s not something good you do something.
    I respect my mom so I don’t get in trouble.
    I don’t respect my brother because he is not the boss of me.

    • Do you think that even though your brother is not the boss of you, that you should still show him respect as a person and as a family member?

  172. I would try to make the person who was bullying stop. A upstander is where you stand up for the person who is getting bullied. A bystander is where the person who is not standing up for the person whos getting bullied.

  173. A upstander is someone who stands up for the person that is getting bullied a bystander who watches bulling when its occur! I would stand up for anyone getting bullied because i will not like it if i was getting bullied i would be sad if they dont stand up for me!

    • Very true. It is sad. Peer Pressure can be so tough. Even as an adult, you can’t give into the worries that come with not falling in line with what is expected just to appease your peers. I’d like to say that as an adult you won’t get pressured, but at least you have more experiences and does get easier to say no or stand up for your beliefs.

  174. OK, I would report if the person was being cyber bully. And being an upstander means standing up for people who are being bully. And when I was on an art website called Deviantart someone said “ur aurt is so uglee!” and yes she actually used that language, and she had a link to my page and it said worst art ever, So then an admin finally had enough and reported her, It turns out she was a pirate, she traced other people’s drawings and she uploaded the same writings. So she got banned for copyright and cyber bullying. So that’s my experience,

  175. Showing respect online is something every person should do. Something we post may not seem mean or harmful to us, but it may to someone else. Showing people respect will make other people show you respect as well.

    • Nicole – You are exactly right. The words we write carry no inflection with them, so what we mean may not be what is interpreted on the other end. We have to be careful to choose our words carefully. And never post when angry! Thanks for sharing!

  176. What I would do if I were involved in online bullying is?I would tell and show my parents what has been said and if that person went to my school I would tell a teacher or the principal.

  177. If I found myself in the midst of an online bully I would try and help the kid that is being bullied. I think the difference between an upstander and a bystander is an upstander would stand up and try and do his/her best to help the kid. A bystander would just stand by and watch it happen and not do anything about it

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